A wedding isn’t just a celebration of love. I truly believe that there is so much growth and changes that you and your fiancé go through in this process, that everytime I hear “It’s just one day” I just want to reply “Yeah… but no… it’s so much more”.
You laugh, you cry, you dream, you achieve, you fight, you love, you go through a life lesson packed in a small amount of time, and while everyone’s experience is different I believe these are 5 ways you grow in the process:
- You learn negotiation
For most of us, this is the most lavish and expensive “party” we have ever and/or will ever throw. When you are talking real money you realize that a little negotiation here and there goes a long way. When it comes to vendors or simply talking to your parents about what they are willing to pitch in, you become a master
2. You learn economics (and law of attraction)
I am amazed at how most of us women, that have dreamt about this day since we were 3 years old, manage to bring to life a dream of a celebration. We grow up knowing that this dream is coming true one day and when you’re in the process things “magically unfold”. I’m not saying that things drop in your lap, cause they truly don’t, but almost effortlessly you learn to cut expenses where you can in your life to make this happen. You believe with every fiber of your body that a dream celebration (big or small) is happening, and when the day comes you’re proud that you two made it happen. Imagine if we put this much love and effort to any area of our lives? – CHALLENGE ACCEPTED.
3. You learn about human connection
Sometimes we forget the power of love and human connection. When we see people willing to travel, to spend money and time to be with us, people getting to know each other in the celebrations leading to the big day, etc., we realize that it all comes down to human connection. The flowers will die, the food will be eaten, the cake will be gone, but the love, the feelings, the wishes, should life a lifetime. – Let’s keep celebration and searching for human connection.
4. You learn about priorities
What do you want your wedding to be like? vs. What can you afford your wedding to be like? In real life you get the things you want in different stages: i.e: you buy a nice house but wait a few years to get the car you want, since you needed to safe. When it comes to weddings, it all comes down to one day. So it’s pretty hard to have it all. Once you realize that, you learn to prioritize and hopefully understand WHY some things are more important than others.
5. You realize that letting go is a beautiful thing
When it feels heavy, desperate, anxious, you take 3 deep breaths and ask yourself: What’s the worst that can happen? Usually the answer is not that bad. Letting go is a life lesson.
What have you learned in the process?
P.s.: You know the drill… forgive me and my flawed english 😉